HOW TO KNOW IF YOUR PARTNER IS CHEATING

A trip through memory lane tells a story on how relationships weren’t a baggage of extra thoughts or burdens, but the grounds to be grateful, doubling up as a springboard with which a higher stage in life is attained. When two people fell in love, it was the best thing to ever happen to them. Sex wasn’t the priority but love in itself. Relationships where finger-licking if converted into a meal… But we can’t deny the fact that it isn’t the same story with these days’. In recent times perhaps, relationships are entered into, based on the general idea that we have to be in a relationship – a love affair – and make babies thereafter; but there are more to it than what it seem.

Although some partners with hot pants finds it really difficult to have one sex partner so the only way through it is playing what they call “away match” to satisfy their sexual urge. Well, we seem to have bunch of reasons to back up our actions; but no matter what reason we have, it’s not enough to justify the act of sexual mendaciousness.

This article is not meant to breakup relationships but help you identify certain truth in your relationship. Well, let me ease up your emotions.

I’m sure by now, you must have been fed up with the new disgusting attitude put up by your partner but I’m here to provide answers to your long asked questions, settle your confusions with factual information and teach you practical steps to knowing if your partner is having an affair under your nose in other words cheating on you. These are the signs that can help you decode speedily.

§  Less romantic: My partner used to be very romantic… but not anymore. You think this is ordinary? He’s having a diverted attention. Something or somebody must have been eating deep into his/ her heart; find out what that thing is. Sometimes it could be a burden; but before it gets to that breaking point where it affects your relationship, you are the burden! Check yourself. If it’s a problem, your partner will talk to you. And if it’s not, you don’t expect any explanation. Just know that something is fishy, someone else has stolen the attention off you – you are been cheated on. Period!

 

§  Gets angry easily: For some partners who cannot pretend about their feelings, they tend to exhibit this attitude very fast - anger. They react on virtually everything you do. You didn’t serve the meal well, you snore while asleep, and when you say anything, they complain that you nag… Nothing appeals to them anymore. This is not spiritual… this is emotional! Something is wrong! You’re no longer the angel he sees in his head when he wakes up every morning or the prince charming her heart always long to embrace. Someone’s attention is divided. Call your partner and have a real talk. If you are good with words, and by the grace of God, chances are there that you will win back who you cherish.

 

 

§  Denies you access to things you usually share: When your partner starts depriving you to see his/ her phone (s), emails… there are no two ways about it. There are secretes kept from you! Secretes I bet you don’t want to know. But I’ll tell you… your partner is two-faced. Something illegal is involved and you’re not meant to know about it. Chances are there that you’ve been cheated upon. Sometimes partners changes passwords to their phones, change password to their email and other social networking sites they are subscribed to and not letting you have the new password. My dear, there’s a healthy cat in the bag!

 

§  Complains/ nags: We know about personal attitudes. But when a new attitude is exposed after a certain period in a relationship, there must be some fire somewhere producing the smoke. These attitudes come mostly when a person is disgusted by somebody or something. So confirm the problem and fix it! Some partners don’t really know how to call off a relationship when they find new love, so they portray these attitudes to get their other partner fed up with the relationship and quit.

 

§  Lying: This happens to be the most common act when a partner starts cheating. And most times, the lies are so cheap that you can decipher. They use friends to cover up so many things. Lying is cheap… so they hide under that shadow. This means that when your partner resumes the lying business, something is fishy. Here’s how you will know if a partner or person is lying: liars avoids eye contact just so they are not psycho-studied. Take note.

 

§  A reduced amount of enthusiasm: This is like a coin with two sides. Your presence is no longer with warmth and that perfect listening ear is gone. Your partner becomes too busy to keep a date with you. You no longer attend parties together. Your birth date forgotten. You remind your partner of what you took time to explain… perhaps, you don’t need a recommended eye-glass or a Wole Soyinka to interpret this; the subject is written in block letters.

 

§  Takes a moment before answering questions: This is another common act found in cheating partners. Because they don’t want to be caught, they take their time before answering relating questions to their relationship so that they don’t end up implicating themselves.

 

§  Reduced Sexual ability: Naturally, when a thing becomes too much; especially sex, it loses its beauty. With the many advantages of sex, when it is abused – have everyday – especially with the same person, we are likely to get tired of it pretty soon; sometimes irritated – depending on individuals because we must have been used to the same style and ways it is done… we get bored and it begins to affect the relationship with our spouse. But if it is respected and not having it like daily meal, the beauty and purpose of it will be retained. If we no longer enjoy sex with our partners – especially with the male folks – we tend to look outside. And even as females, when our male partners no longer satisfy our sexual urge, we tend to find satisfaction elsewhere. So here is the point: when your partner starts getting weaker everyday and not being able to satisfy your sexual urge, something is wrong. If he is not having emotional and medical problems, he is seeing someone else. That’s all!

 

§  Irregular phone calls and text messaging: Earlier, you talked on the phone and it was like distance never existed between you both. But now, you don’t talk for one whole week, and everything seem ok to your partner – ask your spouse this: “tell me how much you missed me”. The response you get will not be as strong, loving and convincing as the words you are usually showered with.