WHY DO MEN CHEAT?

Find herein, the SIX (6) most influential factors causing men to cheat. These factors are applicable for all kinds of relationship.

Women are the steering wheel of any relationship. Men are the engine-box of any relationship. Women decides the fate of a relationship through their actions and inactions; they decide the drift of the relationship and men – always flexible to a drift, leaves the women with negative or positive effects to the drift – they may complain, but they always have backup plans because most of the male folks don’t show too much of their emotional involvements so their backup plans automatically become activated because only a few percentage of men pay attention to love. M. Gary Neuman found that “68 percent of cheaters never dreamt they would be unfaithful, and almost all of them wished they hadn't done it.”

SIX REASONS WHY MEN CHEAT

Emotional dissatisfaction: This is a big one, sometimes women feel they are the ones who deserve emotional satisfaction. But they often forget that men are emotional beings too and as such, deserve emotional satisfaction too. They want to finish up their daily activities and come back to their partners early enough. They want to find every reason to be in the company of their partner. He wants to talk to her, tell her his plights, his next plan… but if he is not connected emotionally, he wants to find that connection outside her which forms the basis of his reason to cheat. Lynn R. Zakeri explained: “It may sound surprising, but many men are really looking for someone to connect with, to be their best friend and their intimate partner; and when they lose that connection in their marriage, they may look elsewhere.”

Negative influence: Men love to be around their folks. They want to talk business or share new ideas. They want to connect with other influential people their friends are already connected with, and because they can’t be tied down at home, they go out. They hang-out with different people their partners may never know. For men who get easily influenced, they tend to pick up the “cheating habit” along the line – especially when their friends, colleagues or close business partners who they perceive as really good guys, cheat. This is because they want to measure up and not feel left behind.

Sexual dissatisfaction: This is in the same family with sexual dysfunction. Sexual dysfunction is defined as the inability to fully enjoy sexual intercourse. Sexual dysfunctions are disorders that interfere with a full sexual response circle. These disorders make it difficult for a person to enjoy or have sexual intercourse. However, sexual dissatisfaction can be a predictor of infidelity. Studies have shown that sexual dissatisfaction is a common cause for divorce. Truth is, when sex loses its place in a relationship, men can take it personal. In the absence of sex, men feel disconnected, which makes them open to sexual opportunities. Alberto C. - Dallas, TX wrote “We make time for sex and find sex to be an essential component of our relationship. If sex is good, my wife and I can tackle all challenges!” Reggie says: “If a woman doesn't care about her man’s sexual needs, she doesn't care about her man.”

To boost ego: Men with low self esteem – especially if they’re less successful or acquires their success illegitimately, falls into this category of cheating men. They want to prove a point to themselves – I am a real man! I am handsome and rich! I can get any woman and what's between her thighs! They often cheat to cover up their low self esteem.

Lacking the ability to say no: Some men are weak. They find it really difficult to say no. This part of them over power their resilience when they come in close contacts with sexy ladies. When a lady sends out body message/ signs, they find it real hard to refuse. The weak part of them becomes automatically active which makes them vulnerable to the act.

Influence of drugs or alcohol: Men who do drugs or consumes too much of alcoholic content, tend to cheat on their partner. People who have been drinking heavily, reacts slowly to stimuli – they have difficulty with their balance, “judgment and coordination”. Research has shown that alcohol affects brain chemistry by altering levels of neurotransmitters. Neurotransmitters are chemical messengers that transmit the signals throughout the body that controls thought process, behavior and emotion. Alcohol increases the amount of dopamine in the brain reward center, which creates the feeling of pleasure that occurs when someone drinks.

No matter what reason we think we have, it's never enough to justify sexual mendaciousness.

Written by:

Paul Okuk